Last night was our first night keeping baby Cooper! (His mom and older siblings are visiting their dad and moving back furniture) What fun it is to have a 5 month old around the house. He is so funny....giggling out loud, following every move we make and trying to grab and talk at everything! We have really enjoyed him for our first night. He went to sleep fine, he was a little uneasy a couple times during the night, but I am sure that is because he was in an odd place...and to take care of this problem all you have to do is replace his passy and swaddle him back tight! Easy Cheesy! This age is priceless and I couldn't ever imagine how much I would love a nephew!
Talking all baby talks brings up a subject that I never blogged about. Most of the readers read about my miscarriage I had back in July. It was horrible. The worst pain I have ever been through and pain that sticks with you forever. For those of you who have never experienced a miscarraige, be grateful because I honestly thing it is pain that never leaves. For those that have I feel your pain. Nate and I were egger to try again, maybe too soon! We were pregnant again by September only to learn that I miscarried again in October. You think you had heard the worse news ever the first time the doctor talked to us about miscarring, wait till you hear it twice. I won't elebrate because I still can't talk about it. Actually nobody knew we were pregnant the second time, not even family. So I was in a very low place after I learned we had miscarried again. I had surgery in October. My doctor here in Cape, MO thought it would be best to do all the testing after 2 miscarriages. They usually don't test until after three, but I will feel better after test are ran and if there is a problem it needs to be fixed.
So here we are now, testing! Testing everything under the sun...procedure after procedure and I swear I have lost half my blood count after all the blood that has been taken. So far nothing has been found that is causing it but there are still more test to run. We hope to also take a trip to St.Louis within the next month to test up there.
When I started this blog entry it was intended to tell my story at all, I don't want pity, I just thought maybe you should know. At first it was hard to be happy for others that were glowing and pregnant, it was hard to pass someone with that baby bump or even be around others with new babies. Its hard to think of people giving up their kids, its hard to imagine people hurting their kids, heck its even hard for me to understand parents beign mad at their kids....these things make me so mad that I could scream. As bad as this sounds, you just want something so bad, something you have tried for and it seems everyone else has it. But I am better now, I can be happy for others...the pain is still there but I know in my heart we will be parents. I really am happy for others and I am so happy that they are bringing a baby in the world, I just want that too. I want the morning sickness ( I would not gripe), I want to be waken up every hour to feed, I want to get fat and maybe not even loose the baby weight afterwards( I wouldn't care), I want the fits and screaming and being late for work because the kid(s) wouldn't listen! I can't wait till that happens.
I guess having a little one around to watch and take care of these next couple of days just makes me realize how I can't wait till all these test are done so we can have a baby of our own! But Nate and I know God is looking out for us, he has gotten us through this so far and we know he will bring us great things! We are being patient, he will bless us and we know he wants us to be parents...my gosh we would be great! So go home and kiss your kids because sometimes its not as easy as just getting "knocked up"! Some people try a lot harder and have battles to beat before they are blessed. So never take it for granted. I will go home tonight and Cooper will be there to entertain us and give us join and I know God has a plan and now that my story is out I will be sure to keep everyone up on how my testing is going!
P.S. If anyone out there has similar stories or has had trouble I would love to hear your story. Maybe we just tried to soon? Maybe my body needed time to rest from the first one (which I know is common to miscarry once). Maybe its something small, any insight on any of this will sure help!